The Something Else

If it wasn’t Porn or Video Games, it would be something else.

I do blow hours on my PS5, but even if modern games weren’t so amazing and there was no PS5, I’d find something else.

This is exactly what TradFems and Man Up ConFluencers refuse to understand because it completely ruins their feminine-centric rationales. That constant drone about how video games or porn is to blame for paralyzing men’s maturation – a maturation that’s always measured by how well it serves the Feminine Imperative.

What they refuse to acknowledge is:

If it wasn’t Porn or Video Games, it would be something else.

Countless guys do this already. On some level, they conclude that the cost-to-benefit equation isn’t rewarding with women. There’s a never-ending flow of podcast interviews of Real Men, all shaking their heads over the reasons for the generation of “Lost Boys” who are so inured by the instant gratification of immersive video games and free online porn that they have no incentive to ‘grow up’ and fulfill some self-defined form of idealized manhood.

These hacks are so fundamentally locked into their doctrine-modified Blank-Slate, gender-neutral equalism that it never registers that if it weren’t PS5 or ubiquitous porn, it would be something else.

We are a generation of Man Cave masculinity who feel some desperate pride in clawing out a tiny space where they’re free to indulge in doing man things in a home we pay for. Men need something else that’s just marginally rewarding, set apart from an unrewarding spouse. But even in this attempt at Male Space, women feel entitled to insert themselves into it or do something compensatory.

Then we have married men who’d rather become “workaholics” or hobbyist Entrepreneurs and pour themselves into their hoped-for careers or side hustles rather than rush home to the diminishing returns of a marriage they have to convince themselves is worth it. The negligible appreciation for him as a man, or, at best, his acquiescence to the male indenturement he was taught he should find intrinsically rewarding, becomes progressively less engaging than decompressing with Call of Duty. Instead, work becomes his something else that he occupies himself with.

The men who bought into the idea that their highest sense of reward ought to be found in fulfilling the ideals of Fempowerment marriages find that something else is more intrinsically or extrinsically rewarding.

And it’s not just “lost boys” playing video games, smoking weed, and snapping their radish to free porn. Those are just young guys being pragmatic in solving the cost-to-reward equation women give them. But married men, and men of all walks of life, are solving that equation for themselves now. They’re forced to solve an equation presented to them by women who feel entitled to having their Hypergamous natures appeased, with no insight as to how superfluous men might adapt to their conditions.

These aren’t lost ‘boys’; they are mature, relatively accomplished men responding to their condition.

Men are deductive problem solvers. Our mental firmware will try to solve problems with whatever’s presented to us. ConFluencers, distraught over the ‘lost boys’, aren’t concerned with these guys’ making something of themselves. They’re concerned with the lack of suitable men for women to marry and husbands to affirm them in their indenturement. That, or they fret over the possibility that their empowered daughters might not have a Servant Leader ready to marry her once she’s “found herself” and “getting right with God” at 30. Complacency, like misery, loves company — especially when it confirms the rationales men use in their own denial.

They can’t see the disincentives of forming long-term monogamous bonds with women that their ‘drop out’ generation boys are pragmatically avoiding. It’s a form of Soft MGTOW, but what’s harder to acknowledge is the Soft MGTOW that’s been part of modern marriage for four decades.

A foundational tenet of the Red Pill is that a man must always put himself and his passions at the forefront of his life. You make your mission, not your woman, your priority. The something else I’m detailing here may in fact be a man’s genuine passion, but his impetus to engage (or over-engage) in it comes as a result of a need for escapism rather than genuine fervor for it. This is an important distinction because what was once a dynamic passion for a man can become an unrewarding refuge if he comes to see it as a way of escaping his reality.

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Rollo Tomassi is the author of the Best-Selling book series, The Rational Male.

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