Frame and Congruence

Women cannot look up to a man who is her equal.

Frame & Congruence

The concept of Frame is another abstract idea that needed a term from the very beginnings of the masculine awakening that's become the Manosphere. If memory serves, it might have been Mystery who first picked up on this rudimentary and

well-established psychological principle. In psych terms, Frame is a subconscious, mutually acknowledged, personal narrative under which people will be influenced. It’s a subroutine running as a background process. One's capacity for personal decisions, choices for well-being, emotional investments, religious beliefs, and political persuasions, amongst many others, are all influenced and biased

by the narrative Framework under which we are most apt to accept as being normal.

Frame can be a lot of different things. The concept of Frame covers many aspects of our daily lives, some of which we are painfully aware of, others we are not. Nonetheless, we are passively influenced by Frame. What concerns us in terms of intersexual relations is how Frame sets the environment, the ambiance, the atmosphere, and the reality in which we relate with both the woman we want to bang at the bar and the relationship with the woman we've lived with for the last 20 years. Frame refers to the women you know and those you don't know. The dynamics will change if you're making an approach on a woman for the first time, or perhaps you've been married for 20 years, but the principle of Frame doesn’t change. Frame is still Frame.

As I mentioned in the last chapter, Frame is not power. Controlling the Frame may be an exercise of power for some, but let me be clear: the concept of Frame is the reality in which you choose to operate about that particular woman. Are you in her Frame, or are you in your Frame? When interacting with women in your new persona, be conscious of whose Frame is dominant. Is she setting the tone of the interaction while you participate in it, or are you establishing a world she wants to join in?

Frame is influenced by our acculturation, socialization, psychological conditioning, upbringing, education, etc. But be clear: you are either operating in your Frame, or you're operating in hers. The balance of Frame often shifts. Frame begins fluid and will find its own level when a deficit or a surplus of will is applied. The forces that influence that lack or that boost of will are irrelevant. Just know that the conditions of an operative Framework will shift because of them.

Frame applies in different situations. For example, when meeting a woman for the first time, your interaction with that woman is all about establishing Frame. When you are familiar with this person but are in a pre-long-term relationship, Frame takes on a new aspect – holding that established Frame. When a guy laments about how he lost the Frame and wonders how to get it back, they often believe that because a woman initially gave them indicators of interest or was really into them, they had Frame. This is another misconception of Frame. I partly blame the pickup artist culture, but…

Frame is not interest level.

Just because a woman is attracted to you does not mean she's ready to enter your reality. Her entering your Frame may become a byproduct of that attraction, but it does not guarantee it. In truth, under today's social environments, I would expect a woman to resist tooth and nail from rushing into a man's Frame. The reason women initially shit-test men is to determine if their Frame is legitimate or a clever fake.

Women generally have to figure out if you're the real deal. That's what feminine intuition is. It's what I call the hypergamous filter used to find out if you're for real. This is why women evolved subconscious propensities to shit-test men. Shit-testing is intended to verify the legitimacy of a man's Frame. Is this guy really who he says he is? He's trying to tell me he's a partner in a law firm or a surgeon. He just finished his residency. He's letting me know he's an entrepreneur, a business owner, or whatever else. But is he really a barista? Is he really a sandwich artist at Subway? When women are trying to determine whether you're for real or not, what they're doing is they're trying to get an idea of how authentic and how real your actual Frame is.

Incongruency

Most Game incongruencies develop around a guy's inability (or unwillingness) to establish a Frame and opt into a woman's Frame. This occurs when you decide to play by her rules. Ironically, we instinctively understand Frame imbalances. If you feel like you're being led on or made to wait for sex, you're operating in her Frame. Women break their rules for Alphas, but they make rules for men they instinctively know are Betas. If you’re following her rules, you’ve failed the shit test, confirmed for her you’re Beta, and set yourself on a long path to convincing her otherwise. Beta men make rationales for ceding Frame by convincing themselves that they are “respecting her” by following her rules. But Betas instinctively understand this categorization and default to enter a woman’s Frame to prove they have value-added attributes to compensate for their weak Frame. This is why I’ve said that the dominant Frame you enter into a relationship with is the one that sets the tone for the whole relationship.